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      <image:title>Blog - DBT Skills for Managing Crisis - Temperature by changing the body's temperature, it is possible to decrease the intensity of an emotion quickly. This helps to decrease emotional dysregulation by slowing down our heart rate and activating our parasympathetic nervous system (which cues a relaxation response). If you have any medical concerns, check with a healthcare provider before trying this. Implementing the skill: Dip your face in a bowl of ice water Splash your face with cold water from the sink Take a cold shower Jump in a cold body of water (ocean, river, lake, cold plunge at your local bathhouse/sauna) Hold a frozen orange (an ice cube works too, but a frozen orange can be less harsh to hold and has a pleasant aroma as well) Intense Exercise engaging in intense exercise, for a short amount of time (ideally 20 minutes), can help to de-escalate intense emotions. Implementing the skill: Jumping jacks Dancing Running Push-ups Paced Breathing slowing down the breath to 5 or 6 breaths per minute, breathing out slower/longer than breathing in. Your breath is with you wherever you go and is your most portable coping skill. Implementing the skill: Download a breathing app such as Breathwrk 2:1 breath (exhaling twice as long as you inhale, see reel below for visual example) Box breathing Paired Muscle Relaxation pairing tensing muscles with breathing Implementing the skill: Tense various muscle groups (for example: can start with feet and move up) Notice the sensation of tensing while breathing in Relax the muscles by letting go of all tension, noticing the sensations You can pair the relaxation of your muscles with saying out loud or internally the word “relax” A guided video can be found here</image:title>
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